I need to write for the word vilify tonight… and I don’t have it in me. It is such a nasty word about raking someone over the coals. Lies and truths destroying someone’s life. I can’t do it. I have had people in my past hurt me in different ways, and to this day I still defend most of them. It is just my nature to care forever. So, we are skipping vilify tonight.
I do however have a question for you all. A dear friend of mine just lost many personal irreplaceable objects in a fire. You can replace the furniture and walls, but the pictures, memorabilia, keepsakes can’t be redone. I feel at a loss. I want to help my friend through this painful time, but I am clueless as to what I can do, if there is anything I can do. Have any of you ever been through a fire or helped a friend or family member out after one? Do you have any words of wisdom of something I could do? Thankfully no one was home at the time, so no one was hurt, but the house is a total loss.
Written for Fandango’s One-Word Challenge (FOWC) – vilify
Times were different when I was growing up honey. There is so much more that can cause harm and danger to kids. Is someone you know in trouble?
Will you promise not to tell anyone?
I wont say anything unless there is a risk to your friend. What is bothering you hon?
It is Sheryl. She is talking about her boyfriend and I think he is being too rough with her.
Why do you say that?
Because he is texting her all the time and getting mad if she doesn’t respond. Wants to know where she is all the time… and the one time I saw them together he grabbed her arm pretty tight it looked like. I’m scared for her mom.
Do you want me to talk to her. Or do you think there is another adult she would trust to bring it up?
Would you talk to her. I just hope she isn’t mad at me for snitching.
If I was her, I would be happy you are concerned.
Good, she’s coming over in an hour.
It is a much bigger problem that the occasional argument, and it is important to identify to get help. Here are some of the warning signs and a hotline number for the Domestic Abuse Hotline…
Don’t brush it off as just a one time thing, it is serious and will just get worse. The website has a chat option available as well as the number to call. Remember you are not a snitch. If you love some one in trouble, help them!
The tears well up
Hanging on the edge
Of lashes already damp
I feel my breathing
Becoming more rapid
My heart is beating
A Morse code plea for help
No one can hear it
No one notices
No one is here
No one cares
While I struggle to live…
Just venting some frustrations tonight. Better to have the thoughts out of my head onto paper (or the screen as it were) than roaming around my brain for hours.
I cried again today… not for sadness though. It was a more or less humbling moment. My boyfriend and I have been in sad financial ways for some time now and I have been very worried about Christmas.
I grew up with Christmas always being a time of giving and I LOVE to buy stuff for other people and see the joy it brings them. Strapped for cash though that is hard to do. We have been saving change, taking pop cans to the redemption center, using coupons when possible… all the tricks we can think of to save. Today my sister and father surprised me with a check to use for Christmas shopping. It was all I could do to stop the tears from flowing right away. I am so lucky to have family that understands what I am going through and is there to help where they can.
So one worry has been lessened. And happily I was able to take advantage of a Black Friday sale and get a shirt for my daughter at half price almost. Now if I can get organised for Cyber Monday I can do some more shopping and then it will be a happy Christmas once again.